Living Together In Divorce - Leaving The Marriage With A Clean Slate - By: Linda Cole

Copyright (c) 2010 Linda Cole

Many divorces are filled with anger and resentment with each partner being so consumed by emotion they forget that once they were very much in love.

Even though most marriages start out with immense hope they often end in disaster because one partner has an affair or their relationship collapses under the huge weight of trying to make ends meet. Lack of money is one of the main reasons marriages break up. The constant arguing and stress gets to a point where one or both partners decide to call it quits.

The recession has put incredible pressure on young married couples who have massive mortgages and other assorted debt. The constant worry about how to meet the banks payments in these tougher times would be hard on the most loving of all couples.

So when they decide they have had enough and want a divorce they are then faced with the mammoth task of selling their house and trying to pay their debts. As the house market has slumped so too have the values of properties and homes with for sale signs on them can sit for years without any buyer interest. The problem is property investors are buying up foreclosed homes for cheap prices and are not interested in paying true market value. This is not good news for a couple wanting to divorce quickly.

When the dust settles and husband and wife begin to realize this may not happen they hopefully re open the lines of communication so they can work out the best way to move on with their lives. It might occur to them that staying together could be the best option. At least until the house was sold and all the debts settled.

What a predicament these divorcing couples suddenly find themselves in as they try to work out how they can live together without tearing each other apart and by that I mean emotionally. If it were physical this new living arrangement would not stand a chance.

If a couple has young children and only one income it may be the only way they can survive. Trying to support children in two residences could be financially crippling and for some impossible. Keeping the family together until the world's economies improve would not be an easy decision for many people but tough times often call for even tougher measures.

There are people who will think these couples are bonkers but they have missed the point. Some of these divorcing couples stand to lose everything they have worked for if they just walk away. They want to start their single lives with a clean slate and have no financial baggage being dragged along behind them.

It is also hardly fair on the people who lent them the money in the first place so they could buy a home, cars and furniture. When people do not pay their bills and debts these people lose their livelihood as well, which affects the whole economy of a country. The critics of people living together during a divorce do not see that there is a uniquely honorable side to the story. Some of these couples may be victims of job losses and are now struggling to pay for the bare necessities. They may also have been the kind of people that paid their bills on time and kept a high credit rating. Just because they may now be divorcing does not change the basic character of these people. They will want to leave their marriage knowing that everyone who lent them money has been paid and their credit ratings still intact. There are good people who have been driven to try new ways in order to keep their families clothed and fed.

In regard to how you handle you finance in your new living arrangement I strongly suggest you have a bank account just for normal bills and living expenses and then split the rest equally so you can have some independence. This should apply to a household with one income also as a wife may be at home looking after a baby or very young children. Her role as a mother should be respected, as her input is just as important as her husbands work.

Some couples may be happy to leave things as they have been and that is fine if they trust each other. Once a husband and wife have left their roles in the marriage behind they often get on a lot better as the problems they were experiencing are no longer an issue. As long as they can adhere to the plan they have put in place I am confident they will make it through.

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